Happy Passover! Chag Pesach Sameach!

To all those observing Passover this evening:

 

(What is Passover?)

 

Notre Dame Fire: Sic Transit Gloria Mundi

Header photo via Westcoaster

Millions around the world grieve a significant piece of European and world history:

As civilizations have experienced throughout the history of humanity:

 

When there is a loss grieved by so many at once, we may feel very connected to others or very isolated. Both are normal. You may have never been to the Cathedral, but it’s part of our communal knowledge and experience.

It can also feel strange and even dissociative to witness historic events–especially painful ones–as though we are observing history passing instead of being “inside” it, as usual. A significant historic event can bring up issues of mortality, death, and existential issues.

Make sure to take care of your physical body and to connect with others in a positive, everyday way as best you can when catastrophic events occur. Eat a meal with someone, stop for a drink, talk on the phone, stop at someone’s house to say “hi,” hold someone’s hand, go to a service, hug your children.

Learning Boundaries as a Self-Parenting Skill

 

I recently saw this tweet from writer Jacinda Townsend:

Jacinda, you are definitely not alone!

For those who grew up in a family of origin with appropriate boundaries, learning how to set boundaries probably happened as invisibly as learning to walk, write their name, or sing songs. Interpersonal interactions were healthy and just “happened that way.” Those people often don’t even realize that’s how they are living. (See: fish, water!)

But for those of us from families with more dysfunction, we may have just as invisibly learned unhealthy boundaries, and it will greatly affect our daily lives. Like much of self-parenting, this is harder to learn in adulthood, but necessary and definitely worth the work.

Since I am also a therapist who hands out materials on boundaries to my clients, here are links to two articles I frequently use with clients. Others may also find them useful:

Like any skill, boundary setting takes repeated practice over time. We may see how we’re “supposed to” do it right away, but that doesn’t mean we will be able to implement it right away. Throw away that perfectionistic expectation. But you can start experiencing relief right away from even small changes! Read the articles and see what parts apply to your experience. Start small, keep working on it, and develop the habit of treating your boundaries as being important! ❤

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Playfulness and Creative Expression are Good for Your Mental Health!

Lancaster welcomes those attending the colorful celebration of creativity and fun! Thank you to attendees for bringing your energy and happiness to our downtown. It’s great to see you!

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(Photo: Lancasteronline article here )

The normally introverted Dr. Liz will be running downtown in her Wonder Woman gear today; say hi if you can catch her! 😁

 

 

 

Holi Hai! Happy Holi!

मथुरा की खुशबू, गोकुल की बहार,
वृंदावन की सुगंध, बरसाने की फुहार,
राधा की उम्मीद, कान्हा का प्यार,
मुबारक हो आपको होली का त्योहार।

 

 

 

 

 

Chag Purim Sameach!

Communicating with others about your experiences is important for you, and for others to hear!

Sometimes expressing experience in music is a good way to keep personal and group history alive:

And sometimes, sharing special foods is the best communication tradition: (recipe at link)

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(Header image via: https://twitter.com/NYPDQueensSouth)

 

 

 

 

Happy Spring Equinox!

In the Northern Hemisphere, we are now at the balance between length of day and night. After today, the days will be longer than the nights.

People with seasonal depression are likely to find their mood lightening. Many people will feel renewed enthusiasm and motivation for everyday activities and for future plans. Some people may have more difficulty with insomnia, though, so it’s a good time to review your sleep hygiene!

Tonight is also a full moon!

 

 

Targeted Violence in New Zealand Shatters the Peace for All

 

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We are saddened and outraged to hear of the deaths of 49 Muslim worshippers at the mosques in Christchurch, New Zealand. We extend our condolences to the Muslim community in New Zealand and also our Muslim neighbors locally.

A reminder to all that it is important to avoid sharing harmful imagery and materials that primarily publicize terrorist acts and terrorists. This includes the video livestreamed by the shooter, but also stills from the video. One reason is to avoid giving terrorists the publicity they crave, which can also encourage terrorist acts by others.

Another reason is to minimize traumatizing people by making exposure to images of actual violence and killings practically unavoidable as they go about their everyday lives. Traumatic material can severely affect not only those in the specific target group of the violence, but many others as well.

As the above Twitter user has pointed out, instead of giving terrorists free publicity, find ways to help, locally and internationally. Some ideas from others include: showing support and solidarity online or in person, contacting local Muslim organizations to offer help, or donating to specific victim aid.

For Muslims anywhere,

Be mindful of neighbors and coworkers who may be very affected by these events and check in with them if you can.

Be safe, and help others feel safe, too. ❤

Happy International Women’s Day!

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Happy International Women’s Day to ALL women ❤❤❤