Professional Discounts on Video Therapy Sessions, Too!

 

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You may qualify for a discount if you are a health / wellness practitioner, staff / faculty at a college or university, or staff / faculty at public schools. Please ask for a discount application.

For prospective clients in Pennsylvania but outside of the Lancaster service area, video sessions may be an alternative to in-person sessions.

Meeting face-to-face has some definite therapeutic advantages. This includes helping to develop the habit of placing self-care “on the front burner” long enough to leave the house for a session. Also, meeting in person allows for more thorough communication and connection in both directions via non-verbal cues.

But sometimes it may be worth forgoing a little of that advantage in order to access some other type of therapeutic benefit, such as a specialty or a particular therapeutic relationship. For some there may not be a local option for in-person therapy at all. In those cases, remote therapy can be the best choice.

Our video therapy sessions parallel in-person sessions as closely as possible and are conducted using a HIPAA-compliant video platform.

Dr. Liz is a fully PA-licensed Clinical Psychologist with eighteen years of experience doing therapy for those experiencing symptoms of anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, dissociative disorders, and many others.

~For those of limited means of any profession (including students) we also participate in Open Path, which can be used for video sessions.

~Clinical service fees and discounts are the same for video sessions as for in-office sessions.

Please contact us regarding scheduling or with any questions.

 

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Welcoming John G. Smith, Ph.D., D.Min.!

REV. JOHN G. SMITH, PH.D.

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Rev. Dr. John G. Smith (he/him) is a seasoned cross-cultural Pastoral Counselor who is extensively trained in Theology and in Sexology, with multiple advanced degrees from institutions in Jamaica, Indiana, and Florida. He works with individuals, couples, and families,  for a broad array of issues from grief and loss, relationships, anxiety, and sexual dysfunction, to conflict resolution.

 

Rev. Dr. John G. Smith (he/him) is a seasoned cross-cultural Pastoral Counselor who is extensively trained in Theology and in Sexology. He holds multiple advanced degrees from institutions including the University of the West Indies in  Jamaica, the Graduate Theological Seminary in Indiana, and the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists in Florida.

Reverend John works with individuals, couples, and families, for a broad array of issues from grief and loss, relationships, anxiety, and sexual dysfunction, to conflict resolution for groups.

He brings kindness and acceptance as well as a passion for supporting and working with people in urban settings.

To make an appointment with Rev. John, please call or email us!

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Someone Said I Did A Racism; Now What? A Guide

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It’s the final day of Black History Month!
The past month has seen a number of high-profile figures being criticized for saying or doing racist things. In most cases that I saw, those in the spotlight made matters even worse by their responses. Have you wondered how you would respond in the same circumstance?
Nobody wants to think of themselves as racist. But the fact is, being raised in a racist society means that some of the time, we will all do or say some racist things, despite meaning well and often without even realizing it.
So what do you do if someone points out that what you have said or done is racist? Here is a guide.
1. First of all, hold that initial impulse to argue. Before you say anything, take a breath and pause for several seconds. If you must speak, say something like, “Okay. I need to think about this.”
2. On the emotional side, contain your defensiveness: Doing or saying a racist thing doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a bigot or a terrible person. Most people doing racist things are not bigots. It does mean that a piece of (very common!) racist conditioning has come up and it’s an opportunity to work on that and heal. If you are a person with a conscience and a heart, it will probably hurt to hear. That means your conscience and your heart are working! But try not to take this criticism as an attack. (This is hard!)
3. Recognize that your intention doesn’t excuse the outcome: If I run over your foot with my truck, it doesn’t matter whether I mean to or not. Your foot is going to be hurt–possibly broken. The same is true of racist acts and words. The vast majority of racism is unintentional, and it is injurious to others just the same.
So it’s okay if you find yourself saying “I didn’t mean to…” But recognize that is only the beginning, and only a tiny piece of the issue. It’s not an apology.
4. Try simply apologizing unconditionally and without a long explanation. It’s okay to say something like “I’m sorry. I see that was ugly.”  If this sounds hard (it is, emotionally speaking), try preparing by reviewing and practicing before this ever comes up, so you won’t be frozen or outraged if it happens. You may also want to review what not to do!
5. Manage your own feelings: This is really the hardest part.
Most of us, if not all, will feel defensive, hurt, attacked, misunderstood, guilty, sad, scared, angry, or some combination of the above. But those feelings are yours to manage, and you are strong enough to hold them.
Remember, the other person is not responsible for making you feel better for having hurt them, or to give you absolution. It’s especially important to let them have their feelings of upsetness without trying to talk them out of it or to burden them with the emotional work of reassuring you about it. That places additional work on them when they are already burdened with the hurt of racism, and it is unfair.
If you need to vent your feelings about this (which is healthy!) find someone else to talk with, preferably a racially conscious White friend or even a counselor. You may also want to journal, cry privately, read, pray, or meditate, just as you would with any other painful or uncomfortable feelings that you are processing.
6. What if they are wrong? Short answer: they’re not. Even though you didn’t mean it that way.
Think about it: if you are a White woman, haven’t you seen men doing sexism even when they didn’t realize it? Or they dismissed it? If you are a White person who is LGBT: haven’t you seen hetero people being homophobic or transphobic and then saying how much they love LGBT folks? Low-income people, haven’t you heard rich people talk about poor people like they really don’t matter at all in the ultimate equation? Yet if you asked them, they would probably say they like people generally, and had nothing against any particular poor person.
The worst judge of an -ism is the person committing it, and racism is no exception.
7. Don’t be discouraged from working on race issues: Pick it back up when you have healed. Think about your motives. Are you working on unlearning racism because it’s the right thing to do, or to get approval and recognition from people in a marginalized group? Work on race issues because you want to improve society, whether or not any specific BIPoC likes you (or you them). Unlearning is a lifelong process.
8. Develop authentic friendships: It is always more emotionally risky for a BIPoC to have a White friend than the other way around. So make yourself available, be friendly and helpful insofar as you are able, but remember that no one owes you friendship, no matter how nice you are to them. To borrow an analogy, friendship is not a vending machine.
For additional thoughts about interracial friendship, visit this thread:

PS: Whatever you do, resist the urge to do a “not all White People,” –no really, do not do a “not all White People.”

 

Our First “From You”: “Belonging to Yourself”

 

 

From time to time, our clients bring in articles, books, essays, or other materials that they have found especially helpful in work we are doing. Since one of the most valuable reviews is from someone who has been there, we’d like to share the helpfulness with others who may need it!

Today’s link is an article by Celeste Scott. It features an aspect of self-parenting: learning to belong to yourself instead of waiting for permission or approval from others.

To learn about other aspects of self-parenting (or self-re-parenting) in adulthood, read more on our blog here.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day! Practice Loving Kindness for Mental Health

 

Be loving to yourself and to others: Mental illness deserves as much care as any other illness or injury. It’s not “laziness” or being “weak” or flawed in character. Practice acceptance and support instead of criticism.

Mental illness is usually unlike the movies. Cultivate loving kindness to yourself instead of judgment and criticism. [Try Loving Kindness meditation by Tara Brach to spread love to self and others.]

Remember that mental illness often affects every aspect of a person’s life and health.

Birthday of Rosa Parks

Today is the 106th anniversary of the birth of Rosa Parks.

Dolly Chugh reviews The Rebellious Life of Mrs. Rosa Parks for Forbes. She describes why this should matter to your organization (and everyone’s!)

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“So You Want to Talk About Race”

Discussing race: “Be Uncomfortable A Lot!”

In honor of Black History Month, I will begin livetweeting Seattle writer Ijeoma Oluo’s book, “So You Want to Talk About Race.” It will take as long as it takes, but today is a great day to start!

This is an accessible and important read. I hope you will join me in reading or follow along in reading and discussion.

Twitter thread begins here.

For more of Ijeoma Oluo’s writing, see her writing page.

For a bit of background on Ijeoma Oluo’s perspective on race, this KUOW page has a brief archived podcast and transcript.

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PHOTO CREDIT: NED AHRENS, KING COUNTY

 

Honoring Black History Month

Check out upcoming events on the Lancaster Black History Month events calendar!

 

Support Black Women’s mental health:

And watch some better entertainment!

Welcoming Neetu Anand, Psy.D.!

NEETU ANAND, PSY.D.

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Dr. Neetu Anand (she/her) is a pre-licensed Psychotherapist who trained at Immaculata University. She has worked in local group and individual private practices. She offers individual, couples, and family treatment and assessment for a broad array of issues. She also accommodates clients requiring Hindi, Punjabi and Urdu.

To make an appointment with Dr. Anand, please call or email us!

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