Happy Saint Lucia’s Day!

Celebrate the returning of the light. Your hypothalamic pituitary axis certainly will be!

Happy Hanukkah

Words from New York Attorney General Barbara Underwood:

 

 

(Header image via: https://twitter.com/TLHYellowCab)

 

 

Trained Volunteers Offer Crisis Support Via Text

While hotlines are not a substitute for clinical care, they can be a caring connection that may help someone having any sort of crisis or trouble to figure out how they’re feeling, what’s going on,  and what they want to do about it. They can also offer referrals if needed. Because so many people use text as a means of communication, now there are text hotlines for crises:

Frequently asked questions answered by Crisis Text Line:

https://twitter.com/CrisisTextLine/status/1067459982143221765

 

What to Say Around the Table

For many people, the holidays are a time of increased anxiety and depression because of ongoing family conflict. Often people struggle to find ways to respond to outrageous or subtle expressions of prejudice or bigotry. Responding to the prejudice of family members and neighbors is even harder if you experience anxiety, PTSD, or your family is a mental health risk! It can help to make sure you are feeling stable yourself, and to be prepared beforehand.

First of all, remember to take care of yourself. You deserve protection, and you are allowed to set boundaries about how family members treat you! You are also allowed to withdraw and rest when you need to, to ask for help with tasks, to say “no” to unwanted activities, and to take care of bodily functions such as eating and going to the bathroom. That may sound obvious to some, but if your family has some dysfunction, those may be things you need to practice allowing yourself.

Secondly, try reading through this list of six steps (below) to speaking up. It will help you to frame your responses and to feel stable in your understanding, which will reduce your anxiety about a possible confrontation even if no conflict occurs. It also explains how to point out unacceptable behavior without name-calling or escalation:

Six Steps to Speaking Up Against Bigotry

If you are interested in broadening your skills in speaking up, here is a comprehensive list of a variety of situations and topics for which you might need a concrete and useful way to respond:

Responding to Everyday Bigotry

Have a peaceful and healthy weekend!

Thanksgiving / National Day of Mourning

The first Thanksgiving was actually a fact-finding mission:

 

On Thanksgiving Day, many will be commemorating the losses of Indigenous peoples and protesting continued injustices.

Indigenous Peoples Day 2018

It really doesn’t take much to show a kinder spirit and truly make the lives of others less painful:

Some reflections and ideas from the Unitarian Universalist Association here: Indigenous Peoples Day

Teen Vogue discusses the history of the movement to change the name of the holiday: Indigenous Peoples Day: 4 Things to Know

Reading list for grownups

Reading list for children:

 

Simple action to help:

G’mar Tov

For those who observe Yom Kippur, may you have an easy fast.

Click through for a thread from Rabbi Ruti Regan in Bethesda, MD: