Natural hair finally accepted in 2019 as a legal right in NYC:
Don’t push grief down or deflect it. We don’t get a choice about feelings arising, just about what we do with them. Pushing feelings aside does not get rid of them; it only makes them come out “sideways.”
Whatever you can feel, you can heal.
Today is the 106th anniversary of the birth of Rosa Parks.
Dolly Chugh reviews The Rebellious Life of Mrs. Rosa Parks for Forbes. She describes why this should matter to your organization (and everyone’s!)
Ram Dass (Dr. Richard Alpert) expresses acceptance of self and others with a beautiful metaphor:
“…when you go out into the woods and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You appreciate it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree.
The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying “You’re too this, or I’m too this.” That judging mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.”
Remember, emotional and cognitive skills take practice just as physical skills do. Many of us have years or decades of practice in thinking destructively and judgmentally! So practice a little self-acceptance today, and then again tomorrow, and the next day…
Discussing race: “Be Uncomfortable A Lot!”
In honor of Black History Month, I will begin livetweeting Seattle writer Ijeoma Oluo’s book, “So You Want to Talk About Race.” It will take as long as it takes, but today is a great day to start!
This is an accessible and important read. I hope you will join me in reading or follow along in reading and discussion.
Twitter thread begins here.
For more of Ijeoma Oluo’s writing, see her writing page.
For a bit of background on Ijeoma Oluo’s perspective on race, this KUOW page has a brief archived podcast and transcript.
PHOTO CREDIT: NED AHRENS, KING COUNTY
Check out upcoming events on the Lancaster Black History Month events calendar!
Support Black Women’s mental health:
And watch some better entertainment!
Kaitlin Byrd’s piece describes how prioritizing absolution and niceness can hinder the real, uncomfortable, confrontational work of civil rights progress:
The famous speech “I have a dream” is what many remember the Baptist preacher Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. for, but there is more to his legacy. The activist led the civil rights movement from the mid-1950s until he was assassinated in 1968. MLK was greatly responsible for the passing of the Civil Rights Act and the Voting Rights Act for African Americans, both in the mid-1960s. We now celebrate his life and achievements every third week in January, just days after his actual birthday, January 15.
Today we would like you to remember and celebrate what he has done to pave the way for our future and rights. It’s not just a day off from school or work.
You can celebrate with different events today in Lancaster. United Way is encouraging you to engage with the community in acts of service (link below). The YWCA Lancaster is hosting many for children 3-12 (link below). BOTH FREE to the public. Just remember you don’t need a holiday to get out and help your community.
YWCA Lancaster- https://ywcalancaster.org/mlkday/
-Jessica Yingling, Administrative Manager